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Dear Priya, I love this post and your investigation into the idea of belonging; your exploration of what belonging is; and I adore both footnotes you've shared - the words and the authors. For me, perhaps belonging involves having the courage to love and accept myself fully and unapologetically. Radical self-acceptance and loving kindness towards myself which I can then extend outwards towards others. I feel I have moments of this, but sometimes I create suffering for myself too. A friend said to me that the most important relationship in her life is her relationship with herself. For me, perhaps that relationship also involves my "higher-self" / inner divinity too. I know I feel best and most loving and accepting of myself and others when I connect with my inner divinity, and I have to continually remember to do that😁 Have a lovely Sunday afternoon! It's such a treat to read your writing❤️🙏🕊

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Priya, that was a great post. I like your About page; it was nicely done. I had a hard time feeling like I belonged to anything for many years. Some significant trauma in my life had been left undealt with, and it wasn't until I faced it and opened up about it that I felt I had the freedom to belong to anything. This past year has been one of self-acceptance and seeking my place in the world. I am still determining exactly where it will lead, but I love being on this platform and the community here. I am doing some personal soul-searching on the spiritual level. I am taking each day as it comes and embracing what the day has to offer.

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Thank you for sharing your belonging story. It made me think and wonder about my own. You’re right. It’s complex. Belonging works on many levels for me. I belong in this world and in my family. I’ve always belonged in the Jewish community but sometimes felt left out. Since Oct 7 14 million of us feel like family, a strong community. We aren’t going anywhere. We belong. 🙏

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Hi Priya.

I can picture you on your yoga mat as you describe with fireplace to the right and coffee table to the left as you look out the window at the clouds. That is my exact same configuration and view at my house when I am on my yoga mat in the morning. :)

As for belonging. I never felt like I belonged. Anywhere. I worked hard to make myself small so when I was somewhere I wouldn't be a bother and get kicked out or turned away. So, belonging is a complicated subject and yet a beautiful word. We all want to and yet most of us likely feel like we don't at some point in our lives.

Belonging to me now? Hmmmm. I feel like a belong in this place at this time with these people. I know I do. As for anyone or anywhere else. It doesn't matter so much to me anymore. I don't know if that's an age thing? Mind you, I haven't ventured out too much these days, so I'll see if that still holds true once I do. I hope so.

P.S. On your about page. I noticed the date for your fiction debut needs a little tweak: Coming on Feb 9th, 20224.

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What a beautiful contemplative post, again, Priya. The thought of belonging touches a chord, probably in all of us. For me, belonging is feeling grounded, safe. Like no matter where I go, I know that somewhere I do—or have—belonged, and wherever I am, all will be well. Thanks for this. Also I like your About page and wonderful that your debut novel will be making an appearance in February!

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"Belonging asks me to allow myself to be seen, and for you, to hold space and to see." - That is a beautiful, touching sentiment. I resonate with this a lot. Even just one person seeing you makes you feel seen and whole. Wonderful post, as all posts of yours, Priya! Also, I love your new about page. The graphic you created is gorgeous, and I look forward to reading your novel soon!

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Love this. Great questions for me to reflect on further.

PS I can see the bear on the bike!

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Thankyou Priya for the intro to Brene Brown, who echoes my thoughts on belonging. My closest friends are mostly passed, my children are mostly scattered, yet I am nor alone for I share with folk like yourself... AND with https://suzannetaylor.substack.com/an-essay-contest-is-launched Please take a look and help her share with your readers on all mediums. Peace, Maurice

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This was wonderful, Priya. I really liked the way you lead into this piece — by telling us about where you were as you wrote, it was masterfully done.

I also agree that a part of what we’re doing with writing is trying to find a sense of belonging, both in ourselves and with others.

“... and forget that setting off on a journey changes you.” — I also loved this line! I couldn’t agree more.

Thanks Priya.

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And now I am looking out my window. Looking at the clouds. Wondering if the warrior on his horse are charging into view. I can hear the gallop coming :)

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When the hero is done with his adventuring, he always returns home, to his family, to his community. Belonging is really the whole point!

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Thanks Priya, and yes please look, and maybe submit, maybe restack.... Peace, Maurice

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Thank you for sharing your beautiful reflection on the experience of belonging. Your words capture how deeply personal and transformative the journey of finding a sense of belonging can be. It's inspiring to hear how your passion for tea, teatime, home, and interior design became a vehicle for self-expression and connection with others. Your story resonates with the idea that sharing what we love with others can bring us a sense of completeness and joy. Your vulnerability and authenticity shine through your writing, inviting readers to reflect on their own experiences of belonging. Keep sharing your stories – they can touch hearts and inspire others to embrace their sense of belonging.

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